Whenever he is interviewed, Scott May invariably reminds the interviewer that he has
had his time in the spotlight, and that this is Sean's day. Then he
gracefully shuts up.
He has, according to Sean, been involved in his development, but never, as
far as we can tell, has he gotten in the way, or tried to tell the coaches what
to do with his son, or expressed a concern that they are going to derail his
Well, now that we think about it, he did express some anger towards Matt
Doherty, who allegedly called Sean a "fat f**k. But just about
everyone involved had a bone to pick with Doherty, so he probably gets a pass on
But that aside, he has really laid out a template for how a father should
deal with a basketball playing son.
Duke of course hasn't always been so lucky. Bill Foster had to deal
with Joe Gminski's letter writing to the Durham paper, and more recently, Chris
Burgess's dad was not easy to deal with.
They weren't the first, and they won't be the last, not at Duke or anywhere
else. As long as there are millions of dollars for playing basketball, and
as long as dads are convinced their kids should be worth millions, the problem
will happen repeatedly. It's a shame more dads can't just let their kids
grow up and find who and what they are on their own.